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Why Goals Are Better Than Resolutons

Why goals instead of resolutions? I know, I know. It’s the season for “resolutions” but I refuse to set any. I get the point – to set new ideals for the next year. But a few years ago, I realized that I didn’t want to set any. It’s not that I didn’t want to aspire to anything in the new year. Quite the opposite – I wanted to set goals for myself instead. Do you want to know why???

REASON #1 = Sustainability

Yes, goals are more sustainable in my opinion. When you set a goal and write out the steps to achieve it, it is a long-term plan. The plan is what makes it sustainable. It keeps you moving forward, and keeps the goal in the front of your mind. A resolution feels like a one-and-done proposition. A goal feels like something to work towards.

REASON #2 = Flexibility

A goal is flexible as life moves forward. The goal can evolve, your steps to achieve it can change, and your reasons behind the goal can be updated.

Resolutions feel more permanent and less fluid.

A goal to make more money-conscious decisions can be updated but a resolution to save $2000 feels too set in stone. What if an emergency comes up and you have to get the car repaired?

Reason #3 = Recoverability

Yup, recoverability – meaning that if something gets in the way of the goal, you can recover.

Let’s take another look at the financial goal. If you have to lay out part of your savings to repair the car, the resolution to save $2000 gets “broken”. However, a goal can get back on track easily. You simply start saving again. This is a huge one for me. I can always get back on track with a goal but once a resolution gets broken it feels like it’s over and done.

These three reasons of why goals are better than resolutions are the cornerstones of why I prefer to set the goals. (P.S. Bonus points if you make them SMART goals!) They certainly pointed in the same direction that a resolution might be, but with a goal and a plan, it takes the mental load off a little and I can focus on achieving what I want to achieve!

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Setting up your planner for next year

I’m not going to lie, I kind of love picking out and setting up my planner for the next year! It makes me feel nostalgic for my school years, and picking out all my school supplies. (Trapper Keepers anyone?!?!)

I already have my memory planner for next year and I’m anxiously awaiting the delivery of my planner. In the meantime, I’ve definitely been stocking up on supplies and stickers so that I’m ready to go when January arrives!

I did want to share a few of my favorites with you in case you can’t decide what direction to go.

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One of my favorite shops is My Happy Place Stickers – I love the corner and dewdrop stickers.  The script months and mini calendars are perfect for my memory planner.

I am definitely a repeat customer for Her Courage to Plan – the teeny tiny icons are just perfect for my planner and I’ve also recently gotten her reading tracker set.

The designs and kits from Blissful Jayde Designs and Hattie Rose Designs are just so beautiful and I know I will be using some of them next year.

I am completely obsessed with the kits from The Pretty Pink Co and may own several sets already!

I have recently discovered Wintertime Crafts and have already ordered multiple washi tapes and even a sampler kit.  I just love the vintage designs!

Right now my poor planner is without clothing and for next year I can’t decide between the Canvas Zipper Pouch from Sewing Jobs or the Beige Mina Cover from Sakura Hand Craft.  My planner for next year is an A5 size and both of these come with that option!

If you’re looking for more gift ideas (for someone else or even for yourself), definitely check out the Etsy Gifting Hub.  I just love shopping with small businesses!

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Decision Making Skills

Do you already have good decision making skills? Or is it possible you could consider some ways to improve those skills?

What Is A Decision?

Some people contend, that in it’s simplest form, life is a series of choices. This is, in some sense, true. Except that it’s not that simple, because life itself is not that simple. The complexity of life or, rather, living a life, means that the choices the average individual faces over the course of a lifetime are equally complex. These choices range from simple survival decisions (Should I eat that mushroom?), to difficult moral personal choices (Should I speak out against this injustice and incur increased personal risk?) Obviously, the one thing that all these decisions have in common are the option of choosing action and outcome. However, because the nature of of these various actions, and their potential outcomes, vary wildly, no one strategy can encompass the process of deciding between them This is where an understanding of what a decision is becomes important.

A decision is, of course, the action of deciding something. A person faced with a choice, makes a choice. The most basic example of this is the proverbial fork in the road. When facing a fork in the road, you have the choice of going left or going right. You stop for a period of time while you think, then you decide to go either left or right. Once the decision has been made you take the path you’ve chosen.

That’s straightforward and obvious, right? To some extent, the answer to that question is yes. To a greater extent, however, the answer is no. To become a more efficient and more focused decision maker, you need to understand all the processes that went into making the simple decision above.

First, there was a problem. The path you were walking on divided into two. Second, there was the nature of the problem. Because the path divided, you were forced to go either left or right to reach your destination. Third, you needed to choose between these two options in order to continue. Fourth, you utilized your experience, knowledge and intuition to decide which option was best suited to  your needs. Fifth, you actually made the decision. Finally, you, once again, began moving forward towards your destination based on that decision.

As you can see, the simplest of decisions entails a number of steps. In most cases, we handle these steps subconsciously, without really being aware of what it is we are doing. When the decision we are faced with is simple, this “autopilot” method of choosing isn’t a problem. However, when more complex decisions need to be made, not understanding the process can give rise to difficulties. That’s where the decision making skills come into play!

Decision Making Skills

Are you good at making decisions? The skill is natural for some people while others struggle to make even the most basic decisions. While personality types can play a role in one’s ability to make decisions, it’s also a skill that can be learned. In other words, any one can improve their decision making skills, even if it doesn’t come naturally.

Responsibility

One reason people don’t like to make decisions is they don’t want to be held responsible for the outcomes. This reluctance is a defense mechanism as others may criticize you if you don’t choose wisely. It could erode the confidence others have in you regarding your ability to make decisions. However, you can take steps to reduce it from happening.

Confidence

One of the main factors in decision making is confidence. Therefore, building confidence will help you make decisions. Others will also follow your lead as they will respect your confidence. When you make decisions with confidence, they have no choice but to recognize your authority.

Information

Decision making requires finding out the right information. You won’t get far if you start making decisions without information to back them. With some detective work, you can gather the details that will inform your decision. You have to get as many of the facts as you can before making most decisions.

Often, you won’t get all the facts you need for one reason or another. In this case, you will need to take a leap of faith and rely on your confidence when making decisions. That’s an unfortunate part of the process and one that makes people choose wrong directions sometimes. But, as long as you decide using the information you have available, you can defend your choice.

As part of the decision-making process, consider coming up with alternatives. List out all possible options based on the current information. You can rate the alternatives on a scale of your choosing. This rating can help you when making the decision. You can choose a star-rating system or a percentage system (0-100), etc.

Another technique people like to use is to list out the pros and the cons. To do this, take out a blank piece of paper and write a dividing line in the center. Create the heading “Pros” on the left, and “Cons” on the right. Then, list out the pros and the cons. You can use this to guide you with your decision. Try not to make this process too mechanical as the list may contain several subjective items.

5 Steps to More Confident Decision Making Skills

How do you make a decision? Do you know the steps? What process do you currently use?

If you’re having trouble feeling confident in your actions and wish you had an unwavering self-belief in your decisions, maybe it’s time to look at your decision making skills. Decisions made impulsively or without careful thought might not always turn out the way you hope they will.

Of course, there’s something to be said for instinct and even dumb luck. But what if good decisions were inevitable rather than occasional? Imagine for a moment how it would feel to know you’re right before you even act.

This is because there are steps you should be going through when making a decision. Let’s take a look at those now.

1. Start With an Open Mind

Do you automatically have all the answers? Probably not. Some of your beliefs might be biased, faulty, or illogical. Accepting you might have things to learn is the first and most crucial step to improving your decision making skills. Take a step back from everything but the raw facts regarding what you’re trying to decide.

2. Get the Facts

Do you have all the information you need to make an informed decision? Are there things you need to learn? What about examining the options? Have you considered multiple solutions? Take time to put the work in to gather what you need to proceed with confidence.

3. Predict the Future

Once you have some choices in mind, try to imagine how they’re going to play out. Sometimes what looks good might be a great temporary solution, but you’re going to need to do something different in the long run. If you make a certain decision right now, ask yourself if this will still be a good decision in the morning? What about next week? Or next year?

4. Get Another Opinion

Do you have a mentor or someone you can trust whom you could talk to about this? While you might skip this step on the small stuff, it’s worth having someone you trust weigh in with their opinion whenever you make a big decision. They might see something you’re missing.

5. Act

Sometimes the hardest part of making decisions lies in making the actual decision. It’s tempting to go back over the research a few more times or keep looking for other alternatives. At some point, you’re going to need to act. Take your best solution and move forward with it with confidence. You’ve done all the work. Now comes the part where you put this newfound trust in yourself into action.

The best part? The more you run through this process, the more confident you’ll feel about making decisions in the first place.

How to Overcome Bad Decisions

There is nobody on earth who can lay claim to never making a bad decision. People make too many decisions for them not to make bad decisions once-in-a-while. Hopefully, those decisions have little impact. However, there will be occasions where you make some that have big consequences.

It’s going to happen. You try to do everything in your power to avoid these bad decisions. Perhaps, the information you needed was not available at the time you made the decision. Or, someone gave you the wrong data, whether intentionally or not. It’s possible you made a rash decision without giving much thought to the consequences of the decision. Whatever the case, the result may turn into an unpleasant and stressful situation.

You need to face up to the consequences. Take ownership of the decision and don’t pass the blame. It’s possible you will have to deal with someone if they didn’t give you the right information or they deceived you in some manner. Their action may be the cause of the wrong decision, and you have to choose if you should let that person go as a result. However, if you were the one that was responsible for making the final decision, then the consequences of that decision rests with you.

Stay confident and don’t panic. Learn about what happened and why. Then, try to find ways to reduce the impact of your decision. If it is a business decision that costs your company some money, make sure you let your management know about it right away. Don’t try to ignore the problem thinking that management may not notice. They will be upset when a mistake costs the company money. But, they will be even more upset if you don’t make it known in a timely fashion.

Don’t be afraid to talk to someone who may be able to help with the situation. It could be your boss or a mentor. They may be able to shed some insight into the situation. In fact, you could be blowing the situation out of proportion, and they will know how to get you out of it. But, they can only help if you give them timely information about it.

If the situation requires presenting your case to higher-level management, try to prepare options on how to reverse the situation or reduce the impact. If these managers see that you have taken control of the situation, they may decide to let you run with the alternatives, although probably with a watchful eye of your manager.

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A workable schedule for productivity

A workable schedule for productivity. Those are all excellent words but strung together in a sentence, they could sound more like an insurmountable goal. But wait – I’m here to help!

Creating a Workable Schedule for Productivity & Sticking to It

Creating and following a schedule is the best way to use all of your time as efficiently as possible. Working on a schedule helps you meet deadlines, keep appointments and stay focused on the task at hand. But, following a schedule can be difficult – especially if you aren’t used to planning out your day. Here are some things to keep in mind while making and maintaining your schedule.

Make a To-Do List

The first thing to consider when setting up a schedule is knowing what you need to accomplish. Make a list of everything that you need to get done in a day, as well as a list of leisure activities or other things that you would like to do. Once you’ve made your lists, you can decide how much time you need for each activity and use this to develop a schedule. Schedule high-priority activities first and work everything else in around them.

Use a Planner

Record all of your scheduled events in one organizational tool like a planner. You can use a physical copy or an app on your phone, but it’s important to use the same planner for all your scheduling. This ensures that all of your appointments and meetings will be in the same place and easily accessible, and that no conflicting schedules are made. The simplified scheduling will keep you on track and relieve some of the stress associated with the scheduling process.

Stay Realistic

Don’t plan out a schedule that you won’t be able to keep. Be sure to give yourself plenty of time in between activities, especially if you have to travel from one to the other. Also, make sure you allow yourself breaks throughout the day to rest and recharge. Planning a schedule that is too busy will leave you feeling tired, and may affect your performance as well as your health.

Keep At It

Like any habit, good or bad, you have to keep at it in order to truly make it stick. The same applies to learning how to properly manage and maintain a workable schedule that you can consistently follow each day. The scheduling process will be less stressful and easier to follow through with each time you plan out your day. Persistence is key!

Expect the Unexpected

More often than not, things don’t quite go according to plan. Don’t be stressed out if things don’t happen exactly like you were expecting them to. Be prepared to make adjustments to your schedule if the situation calls for it. If something comes up that you hadn’t scheduled for, make sure you will still have time to see to everything on your schedule.

These tips cover the basics of managing your time. After you’ve worked out and followed your own schedule, you can adapt your organizational style to suit your needs. Try out different methods or techniques to see which ones you like. There is no perfect method for scheduling, so you have to find the method that works best for you.

Scheduling Methods for More Productivity

It may be helpful to think of time like money; if you spend time on things that are not important or useful, it’s just like spending money on things that you don’t want or need. However, unlike cash, you will never get more time.

Sound time management methods can help you become more productive. These methods may include enabling you to plan your time more wisely. This, in turn, helps you keep track of how much time is available per task, what needs to be accomplished, and what needs to be completed by a specific time.

From this perspective, scheduling is considered a form of time management because it allocates specific time slots for specific tasks, instead of generalizing a block of time. To schedule your day for maximum productivity, follow the suggestions below:

Define Your Why

First, define your purpose for the time you want to schedule. For example, is it so you can complete a project by a specific date? Is it so you can do laundry every other day instead of once per week? Defining why you are scheduling time will keep you focused on how important it is to be productive and avoid distractions.

Set Goals

Set specific goals and time limits for each task. Start by writing down all major tasks that need to be completed. Then determine how much time you need for each task, based on what needs to be done. Consider how long it takes to complete in an average situation. Next, break up your time into 30-minute blocks of time.

Schedule Everything towards Productivity

Schedule your time accordingly, so you can complete each task with time left over to take breaks and related activities. If you want to be extra productive, take an incremental approach by creating a daily schedule and using time blocks to ensure that you allow enough time to complete your morning routines and chores.

Make Adjustments

If time was allotted for a task, but you find it’s not working out for you, make adjustments to your schedule until it aligns with the daily schedule needs. If the desired plan cannot be achieved, tasks will need to be prioritized. Consider using the Eisenhower Method to prioritize your schedule.

A workable schedule focused on productivity ensures you can complete your most important tasks each day. In addition, it keeps you on track by ensuring you’ve planned enough time and didn’t over-schedule per task. As you use the schedule, you learn what you can be outsource, automate, or delete from your schedule entirely, since it has no impact on your tracking.

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Evolving Your Mindset

Sometimes we don’t even realize our current mindset, let alone know how to evolve a new one. But evolving your mindset isn’t an insurmountable task – it just takes awareness and small diligent steps.

The Realities of Living with a Fixed Mindset

Imagine knowing, beyond any doubt, that there was nothing you could do to improve yourself. Your intelligence level and the very things your parents and teachers complimented you on years ago would remain fixed throughout your life. While this is an impossible reality for most people, many live with fixed mindsets about certain qualities they believe they cannot change.

People who believe their character traits are fixed and can’t be changed have a fixed mindset. For example, if someone thinks they are unlovable, they may develop into a pattern of self-sabotage. They may take actions in relationships that drive people away. This is because the fixed mindset believes that lovable qualities cannot be acquired.

People who believe their intelligence is fixed and they cannot improve upon it have a fixed mindset. When the person fails at something, they see it as proof that they aren’t smart. They feel that if they can’t do something well, there’s no point in even trying.

According to the data, fixed mindsets are often developed in childhood due to trauma and sometimes due to simply misunderstanding the importance of your experiences compared to how most people interpret them.

If you have a fixed mindset, you must develop a growth mindset. A growth mindset says that your character traits, intelligence level, and abilities are not set. Instead, they can be developed over time with work, effort, and dedication. You can develop a growth mindset by following the three steps below:

1. Recognize your fixed mindset triggers.

As you begin to recognize the fixed mindset thoughts running through your head, you can start to separate fixed mindset thoughts from growth mindset thoughts.

2. Reframe fixed mindset triggers in order to evolve your mindset.

Whenever you begin to have fixed-mindset thoughts, reframe those fixed-mindset thoughts as a challenge that can be overcome with hard work and effort instead of a fixed reality about the situation. For example, if someone has a fixed mindset about money, they might think it takes hundreds of thousands of dollars to be happy. When they come up against their fixed mindset beliefs, they can reframe those fixed-mindset thoughts as challenges inviting them to go out and earn more money.

3. Stop comparing yourself to others.

People with fixed mindsets not only compare themselves to others, but they often only compare the best qualities of their fixed mindset to others’ fixed or growth mindsets. So, for example, somebody with a fixed mindset about weight may constantly compare their weight to other people’s weights. As a result, the issue may cause them to ignore how much money they’re eating, causing the weight problem, instead of tackling the matter knowing that they have the power to do it.

The downside of having a fixed mindset is that it leaves you believing that your abilities are set and cannot be overcome with hard work. Evolving your mindset means you have to step byeond your fixed mindset. The good news is that you don’t need to live with a fixed mindset. The data is overwhelming that you can improve yourself. You can learn and grow and develop into a person with a growth mindset if you follow the three tips above.

Evolving Your Mindset by Rewriting The Story You Tell Yourself

Negative biases and negative thinking affect how you talk to yourself and how you manage your life. If you are working towards evolving your mindset, you can change your story by changing negative thoughts into positive ones. Negative frameworks, negative filters, and negative bias cause negative thinking. When you get in the habit of negative thinking, it leads to negative outcomes.

Changing your story to end the negativity can improve your quality of life. If negative thoughts are not changed, negative feelings and negative thinking will continue. But if they are changed, you will experience a happier, more contented life. To rewrite your story, take the following steps:

Identify negative thoughts – Write them down or acknowledge them as they happen but do not react to them. Becoming emotionally resilient doesn’t mean that you need to stuff your feelings. Of course, you can have negative emotions, but you want to learn to act mindfully and proactively instead of reacting without thought.

    Examine your negative thinking – Discover why you are thinking this way and whether there is a better way to look at the situation. What happened in your life made you think this? Do you have limiting beliefs you need to address?

    Recognize your negative biases – What or who made you believe this? Can you see the other side of the bias? Try proving yourself wrong. It can be tough to accept the things that happen to you may subjective and not always indicative of the world, and statistics may surprise you.

    Change negative thinking to positive thinking – Once you note the negative thought, understand why you had it, and prove it wrong, you can quickly turn it into a positive or neutral thought. Even if you verify the idea is true, it doesn’t mean you have to look at it with hostile intentions. You can instead accept it and figure out a way around it.

    Write down your positive or neutral changes – Once you transform the negative into a neutral or positive change, write it down so you can access it quickly when you need it.

    Keep a gratitude journal – As you rewrite your story, take time to focus on your gratitude. You want to focus on the positives in your life to help you increase your positive thoughts, as well as acknowledge the kind things people say to you and do for you.

    To start rewriting your story, journal your negative thoughts that occur in your everyday life so you can examine them and re-frame them into positive ones. If negative thoughts continue to appear in your daily life, consider seeking professional help from a life coach or counselor.

    Once you change your negative thoughts into positive thoughts, talk to yourself about it. Self-talk is effective because your mind will hear what you’re saying and believe it. If negative words or phrases pop into your head, stop. Recognize them and switch them to positive thought or phrase. Rewrite negative thoughts through positive self-talk until positive thinking becomes a habit.